Many times I remember just needing sounding boards, friends who were in the same situation as me. I used to play tennis with a particularly funny and kind soul named Cara. We had been close frineds for years and suddenly found ourselves in the same boat: single and looking. That "and looking" part can holds up an otherwise fulfilled life.

We would talk about whatever dates we may, or may not, have had, and enjoyed the day for what it was: completely ours and always culminating with ice cream. Over time, as we realized we may never find "the one," we also came to love ourselves more. Completing our unique individual development became fulfilling in and of itself. We were deeply connected to people, but just didn't happen to have steady romantic partners.

Love happens when you are busy doing other things. That includes living life to its fullest. It means connecting as fellow singles, rooting for one another, offering support and celebrating one another's individuality and innate specialness. There is so much excitement out there, and in each of us. So much to talk about.

So treat yourself well on Singles Day, people. You've certainly earned it.